Let’s Talk Condoms: How to Make Them Work for You
Condoms are one of the most accessible tools we have when it comes to protecting ourselves during sex. They’re widely available, and—when used correctly—around 98% effective at preventing both STIs and pregnancy. But here’s the catch: that number can drop with typical use.
So what makes the difference between “perfect use” and real life? Mostly, it comes down to how they’re used—not the condom itself. Think of it like following a recipe: even the best ingredients won’t work if you miss a few steps.
Let’s break it down and take the mystery (and awkwardness) out of condom use—because when they’re used right, condoms can help make sex safer and more enjoyable.
So… Why Do Condoms Sometimes Fail?
Most condom failures aren’t because the condom is “bad”—they’re due to user error. That could be:
-
Using the wrong size or shape
-
Storing them incorrectly (like keeping one in a wallet for months)
-
Not adding enough lube
-
Putting one on inside out
-
Or even trying to reuse one (please don’t!)
Sex naturally involves a lot of friction, which can dry things out and put pressure on the condom. Lube can help with comfort, sensation, and reducing the risk of tearing—so it’s not just for show.
And let’s not forget: condoms are the only method that protects against both STIs and pregnancy—so it’s worth taking the time to get it right.
Getting the Most Out of Your Condoms: Tips That Actually Help
Shop around – Condoms aren’t one-size-fits-all. Just like bodies, they come in a range of shapes, sizes, textures, and features. There’s regular, snug, trim, magnum, ribbed, ultra-thin, delay, extra safe, and even flavoured. Don’t be afraid to try different types until you find one that works for you.
Solo sex is your friend – If you have a penis and you’re not sure what feels best, solo time is a great way to experiment. You don’t have to negotiate with a partner, and you’ll learn what works before you’re in the moment with someone else.
The Condom Checklist:
-
Check the expiry date – If it’s out of date or feels dry or brittle, don’t use it.
-
Look for the BSI Kite Mark or CE Mark – These show it’s been properly tested.
-
Check the packaging – Torn, worn, or squashed packaging? Bin it.
-
Wash your hands – Clean hands mean no damage to the condom (or extra bacteria).
-
Open it carefully – Tear gently along the jagged edge as it will open more smoothly this way; no teeth or sharp nails.
-
Make sure it’s the right way round – It should roll down easily. If you mess up, don’t flip it—get a new one.
-
Use lube – Especially with latex condoms. Just make sure your lube isn’t oil-based unless the condom says it’s compatible.
-
Don’t reuse condoms – One and done.
-
Put it on when the penis is fully erect – Not before and definitely not after.
-
Enjoy yourself – And make sure your partner is too.
Want to Stock Up or Learn More?
If you’re under 25, you can get free condoms (and lube) through the C-Card scheme in many parts of the UK. Some great services we recommend include:
-
Doink – for inclusive sexual health education and resources
-
Condoms Direct – order free condoms by post if you’re eligible
The bottom line? Condoms are a great tool—when we use them right. Taking a bit of time to explore what works for you can make sex safer, more comfortable, and more enjoyable.
Got questions or want to try a few different types? We’re always happy to chat at events, outreach sessions, or your local sexual health clinic. Want to learn more about sexual health then you can also check out our bespoke training packages by clicking this link.